Learn to Love Yourself with Hypnotherapy and Mind Coaching!
Posted on 27th March 2022 at 20:42
Read below my new article published in Brainz Magazine.
Let’s see how hypnotherapy and mind coaching can be one of the best tools to help you fall in love with your beautiful self (all over again...)!
What is Self-Love?
Before a person is able to practice it, first we need to understand what it means.
Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.
Having a healthy relationship with ourselves is the first step towards greater happiness and success. Whatever you aim at achieving in your life, it can only be possible if you have a healthy relationship with yourself and if you learn to appreciate and love the amazing being you already are.
As we grow older though, we tend to forget how important we are and how crucial our own well-being is. Life experiences and challenges can affect the way we feel about ourselves and we can easily be trapped in a spiral of self-deprecation. This is when hypnotherapy and mind coaching are extremely powerful tools to help us to re-programme our subconscious mind, overcome our self-defeating thoughts and restore our love of self.
Self-love can mean something different for each person because we all have many different ways to take care of ourselves. Figuring out what self-love looks like for you as an individual is an important part of your mental health.
What does self-love mean to you?
For starters, it can mean:
• Talking to and about yourself with love
• Prioritizing yourself
• Giving yourself a break from self-judgement
• Trusting yourself
• Being true to yourself
• Being nice to yourself
• Setting healthy boundaries
• Forgiving yourself when you aren’t being true or nice to yourself
For many people, self-love is another way to say self-care. To practice self-care, we often need to go back to the basics and
• Listen to our bodies
• Take breaks from work and move/stretch
• Put the phone down and connect to ourselves or others, or do something creative
• Eating healthily, but sometimes indulge in our favourite foods
• Learn to listen to our inner needs
And many more…
Self-love means accepting yourself as you are in this very moment for everything that you are. It means accepting your emotions for what they are and putting your physical, emotional, and mental well-being first.
How and Why to Practice Self Love?
So now we know that self-love motivates you to make healthy choices in life. When you hold yourself in high esteem, you're more likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and serve you well. These things may be in the form of eating healthy, exercising, or having healthy relationships.
Ways to practice self-love include:
Becoming mindful. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel, and want
Taking actions based on need rather than want. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behaviour patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love
Practicing good self-care. You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy, and healthy social interactions
Making room for healthy habits. Start truly caring for yourself by mirroring that in what you eat, how you exercise, and what you spend time doing. Do stuff, not to “get it done” or because you “have to,” but because you care about you
Finally, to practice self-love, start by being kind, patient, gentle and compassionate to yourself, the way you would with someone else that you care about.
Self-love isn’t about being narcissistic or selfish…
And it’s not about comparing yourself to others or boasting your esteem… It’s about self-acceptance, self-respect, self-conviction, and accountability for yourself! The ironic thing is we’re all so amazing at being good friends and lovers to everyone, except ourselves. We’re wonderful when it comes to uplifting a friend in distress, encouraging a lover who’s felt the wrath of failure, and celebrating their milestones (big and small), but never wholly there within when it comes to our own self.
Self-love is indeed one of the fundamental building blocks for love, happiness, and success in life.
So, if you haven’t discovered what that looks like yet, keep working for it because it’s going to be the most important life lesson you’ll ever learn. Here’s why…
– It’s the first step to building a great relationship with yourself
Independence from someone else’s approval, criticism, and security is one of the most liberating things you will ever feel! By doing this, you’re setting the stage for yourself – you’ll begin to trust and believe in YOUR decisions, and act on them with confidence. When you have this kind of relationship with yourself, everything else becomes possible and a whole lot easier.
– You’ll get much further with your hopes & dreams
If you don’t stop dragging yourself down, you’re never going to get very far in life. Self-love gives you the strength and courage to pursue your dreams relentlessly, even on the bad days. You’ll begin to recognize and prioritize your needs, and ultimately, prosper into the person you want to be.
– It’s the only way to find true love
Self-love is a prerequisite for genuinely loving another and allowing yourself to be loved in return. It emanates a mystical happiness, confidence, and positivity that draws people in and keeps them there. You’ll find yourself kinder and much more pleasant to be around and this all helps your relationship flourish. When you love and respect yourself, you also begin to see the boundaries of a truly loving relationship clearly and that means not tolerating anything you don’t deserve.
Self-Love is our ultimate calling!
It was very challenging when I first started learning and practicing loving myself. Why? Because self-love involves teaching ourselves that we are a priority. It also means learning to live life by understanding we are responsible for our actions, thoughts, and emotions.
When we able to understand our inner emotions — the way we think about people, situations or objects based on our self-reflections — this awareness helps us to boost our self-esteem, confidence, and faith. We have been educated to focus on understanding peoples’ perceptions of their emotions instead of our own.
With self-love, we learn to align true power within with universe love.
Today in our world we often lack awareness that life is a gift and that our existence is important to our planet. This type of loving self-awareness is a powerful injection that can spread its vibration to create a more loving world. As we feel good about ourselves, we initiate more ways to invite happiness and loving moments.
The magic potion of self-love is creating a constant energy of dynamic and positive awareness that we are love.
Loving ourselves is our actual destiny for all of us.
Now let's dig into what hypnosis, hypnotherapy and mind coaching are and how I use them in my therapy sessions with my clients. I know sometimes, all these different types of therapies can create some confusion!
What is hypnosis?
Hypnosis is a safe and natural state of relaxation with an increased level of awareness during which you are not asleep and are fully in control. You will experience a pleasant state of mind with increased attention and focus. The hypnotic state is similar to some moments in your life when you are daydreaming or fully absorbed in a specific activity like reading for example.
There is absolutely nothing to fear as hypnosis used in the strategic hypnotherapy, I provide is totally different from stage and entertainment hypnosis and as you remain in control, you will never be asked to do anything foolish or against your will. For the hypnotherapy session to be successful, I must have your consent, collaboration and full commitment as the purpose is to help you reach a feeling of being more in charge and in control of your life.
Hypnosis delves into your subconscious to plant positive thoughts and suggestions, which can create meaningful and lasting changes in your thought process. Hypnosis replaces the old with the new. Changing your thinking will change your beliefs, fears, desires, habits, and anything that creates resistance when achieving new things.
It is not a passive process. You are actively participating by communicating your goals and what has previously held you back in the past.
These goals are to be truly yours, no matter what you desire to obtain or achieve. If you are trying to satisfy social pressure, then hypnotherapy will not help you. The process is about you, your cooperation, your consent, and your participation.
While in a relaxed state of mind, new information can make its way into the subconscious which transforms old beliefs and thought patterns. For example, if your current thought patterns are “I am will never be good enough,” and “What do people really see in me?” then your subconscious will find a way to reassert and create those negative experiences for you. Once something has been established in the subconscious mind it will remain there until it is replaced by something else. The longer it has been there, the more resistance to change. By undergoing hypnotherapy, you will in turn replace such beliefs with more positive suggestions, such as “I am an amazing person and have a lot to offer,” which then becomes your new belief and new experience.
Hypnosis helps to change your subconscious resistance, and redirects your mind toward the goals you wish to obtain. Keep in mind that the only way in which these goals are obtainable is if they are realistic, and you yourself truly wish to obtain them.
More and more of us are beginning to understand how important the subconscious (or unconscious) mind is in both helping and sabotaging our efforts to change and be happy. It is widely accepted that most of what we do and what we think is directed by the subconscious. In effect, we spend most of the day on autopilot (about 95%), our past experiences shaping our responses, moment to moment.
Breaking habits or gaining new, healthier one’s is often tricky when you try and go against the might of the subconscious status quo. That status quo that keeps you safe; doing, saying and being those same things that may have once helped you survive or thrive in the past.
As a hypnotherapist I believe I work in a profession which is fantastically placed to help people align with what they really desire in life, appreciate themselves and see their true potential. Hypnotherapy allows people to take better control of what they focus on – their spotlight of attention. All those pesky, distracting, and self-defeating thoughts, the negative inner voices... can be quieted down with the help of a skilled hypnotherapist.
It’s no magic wand but if you genuinely want to learn to love yourself fully, to break bad habits or just improve your life in general, then Hypnotherapy may well be the answer.
What is mind coaching?
I like very much The International Coach Federation's definition of coaching in general:
"Partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential".
Mind coaching is NOT me telling you what to do with your life or how to live your life. Mind coaching is you getting really honest with yourself and realize that there are areas in your life you want to improve to get the life you are longing for. It can be described as trance-free interventions and a process that encourages you to have a preference for action over thinking. It gives you the tools to step in, get out there and do the work needed to unlock your potential and get the life you want. It is a Client-centred approach that requires you to take an active role in the programmes we build together to help you reach your goals. It will help you shift your mindset and wire it for success.
Now all this shows you how powerful hypnosis, hypnotherapy and mind coaching are to delete all those used and outdated programmes and limiting beliefs and to replace them by more positive and beneficial ones to help you increase a general sense of wellbeing and learn to fall in love with yourself (all over again...)!
Hope this gives you a better understanding of what hypnosis, hypnotherapy and mind coaching are and how much of powerful therapeutic tools they are when used appropriately.
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