The Constant Need For Validation Is Oten A Trauma Response!

Have you ever felt like you constantly need validation from others to feel worthy? The truth is, this isn’t a flaw in you—it’s a response rooted in past trauma. Many of us, as children, grew up needing to prove ourselves, doing everything to be seen, loved, or accepted. We learned that love and worth had to be earned through actions and achievements. But here’s the thing: it never really did. You were always worthy, always deserving of love, just as you are. 

 

This constant search for approval is a cycle born from those early years. It’s a reflection of unmet needs, not a reflection of your actual worth. The need to be validated externally can be exhausting, but breaking free starts with recognizing that the validation you seek already exists within you. Healing begins when we start affirming our own value and learning that love and acceptance come from within, not from the opinions of others. 

 

As Brene Brown so powerfully said, “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” It’s time to rewrite the narrative. You are enough, always have been, and you no longer need anyone else to tell you that. Embrace your power, trust your worth, and walk forward in self-love. Your story is yours to reclaim. 

 

Take care all. 

 

With much love as always, 

 

Nadija X